By Jessica Snyder
Criticizing someone’s size is body shaming whether they are being called too fat or too thin. When a person is the victim of body shaming, it often leads to comparison and shame. It makes that person start to question their worth and perpetuates the idea that it is okay to judge someone on looks alone.
“You could be really pretty if you lost some weight.”
“You should eat a sandwich.”
“Did you see what she was wearing? That looked awful on her body”
These are all examples of body shaming.
Why is body shaming so common? Many blame social media sites like Facebook and Twitter for making it easier to place judgments on others while sitting behind a computer screen. Others blame apps like “Hot or Not” where people judge one another on physical appearance alone.
Why do we as human beings throw criticism at physical appearance when we are angry upset, mad or hurt by someone? Fat, ugly and anorexic are the words that get hurled at women like a knife to break her spirits more often than not.
“I believe body shaming today is so common because people have this mixed perception that you have to have a nice body to be pretty, or good enough,” said Annalyse West, a Glendale teenager.
In the movie “Pitch Perfect”, Rebel Wilson refers to her character as Fat Amy and in her television show “Super Fun Night” there is always references to her size.
Rex Reed, the New York Observer film critic, called Melissa McCarthy a female-hippo and tractor sized in a review for her movie “The Heat”.
Both Rebel Wilson and Melissa McCarthy are talented, funny and smart women who star in huge blockbusters, yet some still find it necessary to comment on or criticize their bodies, not there attributes, which is a shame.
When it was announced that Gal Gadot would be playing Wonder Woman in the new “Man of Steel” movie, many people began chiming in that she was too skinny. No one bothers to address that she was the right choice for the job based on her acting skills, which are what got her cast in the first place
It is a sad world we live in when almost everything boils done to a person’s body size. It cannot be too fat. It cannot be too skinny. It must be perfect. Perfection is defined as the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects. Anything less than this ideal is unacceptable by today’s standards.
Leanne Rimes, Katie homes, Keira Knightly and Nicole Richie have all been shamed for having bodies that are “too skinny.”
Rachel Fredrickson, winner of the latest season of “the Biggest Loser”, is trending on social media for being too thin. Many are claiming she is anorexic and unhealthy. Fredrickson started her weight loss journey at 260 lbs and was called names for being too fat. She dropped 155 lbs to become 105. Now she is being called names for being too thin.
How is a woman supposed to succeed in a world where her body is up for public scrutiny? How is she supposed to show people that she is smart, strong, artistic, kind and funny if all people are doing is judging her body? Why is the female body anyone’s business but her own?
The most important question is what women can do to learn body acceptance and body love. There are many blogs and websites that offer a safe place to be exactly who you are with no body judgment.
On Facebook, Voluptuous Vixens is a great page for women to find confidence. The posts are mainly aimed for larger women, but they also send out love to the skinny girls. They absolutely do not tolerate posts like “Real men like meat, only dogs prefer bones.” One demographic of women cannot put down another if we want to accomplish ridding the world of body shaming.
Women can also visit http://thin-shaming.tumblr.com/. This page is dedicated to body equality.
As the meme says, “Real women have curves.” That is just not true. Real women have bodies of all shapes and sizes. Real women have brains, and attitudes and personalities that make them unique. We need to stop with the body hate and appreciate each woman for the individual that she is.