by Jessica Snyder
Recently, You Tuber, Nicole Arbour upset a ton of people with her video entitled, “Dear Fat People.” The outrage has been all over Facebook, news sites and blogs. Many have posted videos in response to Arbour.
The majority of people think Arbour was insensitive and rude. While I do not disagree with those thoughts necessarily, I do think it should be taken with a grain of salt.
I love comedy. I attend many stand-up shows and comedians usually offend everyone. All races, genders, body types are made fun of by most comedians during any given show. We can choose to be offended, or we can laugh along. Arbour is correct in stating that people are too sensitive about everything these days.
As for the subject matter itself, I am torn. As a fat person myself, it is hard to hear some of the things Arbour said. However, some of her points are very factual. Fat people are at a higher risk for heart disease and diabetes. We do tend to take up more room on airplanes. Many of us do have joint problems that make mobility harder. I am not a sensitive fat person. I do not need the truth sugar coated to make me feel better about myself. I need and appreciate cold hard facts.
The problem with Arbour is her delivery. She masks her hate spewing with so-called “concern” for our health. At the same time, she has little concern for those who might be affected by it on a personal level. Unlike a comedian who sold tickets to a show, she put it out for the whole world to see. People who do not subscribe to such humor may take this very personal, especially those who are already being bullied about their weight. Not all people want to wake up and see this on their news feed.
The one thing in Arbour’s video that is completely false is when she states fat shaming is not a thing. It is. Fat shaming is a thing, skinny shaming is a thing and body shaming is a thing.
At the end of the day, I tend to subscribe to the notion “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Nicole Arbour went for it and gained her fifteen minutes of fame. Whether you love her or hate her, she does have the right to her own opinion.