by Jessica Snyder
Since the beginning of time, there has been a double standard between men and women when it comes to sex. A man who sleeps around is often labeled a stud; whereas a woman who does the same thing is often labeled a slut. This poses a problem for women in a society that is becoming what is known as a “hook-up” culture. With more people wanting to date casually and save monogamy for later in life, how do both sexes get equal representation when having sex with whomever they see fit?
It is very unlikely that a man who has multiple sex partners will be labeled a slut. Hooking up with multiple women is deemed as somehow accomplishing something and men will often be labeled in a favorable way such as being called a pimp or player, but not a slut. Why is this double standard still acceptable?
As I was writing this article, I reached out to friends for feedback and actually found some of their points interesting. Hear me out on this one, because it might actually make some of you a little uncomfortable. When it comes to sex and picking sexual partners, it is much easier for women to get laid than men in most cases. If a woman walks up to a man and asks him if he wants to have sex within minutes of meeting him, chances are there will be some sex happening. Take the reverse and have a man approach a woman and ask the same thing within minutes of meeting her, and he is likely to become the creepy dude who just objectified her.
Men may be labeled as successful in picking up women while women are labeled as sluts, but I do think we, as women, hold all the sexual power in our hands. We just don’t have to try as hard if we want to get laid. (Please understand that I am only talking about consensual sex in this article.)
I am not saying that to belittle women or make it seem as if I am okay with us being labeled sluts. I am not. I am just saying that it is a double-edged sword and we are able to initiate things sexually in a way that most men cannot without getting labels of their own. I think this is why the double standard still exists.
With that said, I would also like to point out that while I can see both sides of this casual sex scenario, we really need to stop judging others for their sexual choices. We are all free to participate in any kind of consensual sex we wish to and honestly, who cares what other people may think or say about it? The only opinion that should matter to you is the opinion you have of yourself.